I know someone who is 100 percent perfect!!

After a heated week when on a Thursday we are heading towards the weekend, there are so many plans running in our mind. I usually plan in advance the weekends, at least for my daughter. This time I wanted her to concentrate little more on studies and extra educational activities.

As soon as she came back home on Friday with a sigh of relief and glee to look forward to a wonderful weekend, she asked me “Mom what's the plan?” I explained to her what she had to do since she had scored few marks less as in 18/20. So I wanted her to get rid of silly mistakes and get 20/20 knowing her abilities. She was disappointed. 

Being an obedient child, she didn’t deny to what I said but could see something that was unpleasant on her face. She went to her room and started doing as I had directed. I was full of guilt and couldn’t see her dejected. I tried justifying myself, the usual mom talks like it's for your betterment and stuff. “Ï want you to be the best” I expressed to motivate her.

After listening to my so-called motivational speech she just told me a sentence “Mom Why are we never satisfied? Why do we always expect people to be perfect?  I know someone who is perfect!!  To this, I immediately appealed “Who is that?” She mournfully replied “GOD and I know no one can be like him.” I was speechless. For a moment I didn’t know how and what to react. I embraced her in my arms for a moment and told her to do what she wants. She smiled delightfully and was glad that I tried to perceive her thoughts.

Sometimes we learn so many things from kids. After a while,  I started analyzing what she said. We expect so many things from our friends, relatives, children, spouse and most of the time they try to accomplish our expectations. But the moment we get one negative response we change our perception towards that person and forget the times when they did what we wanted. 

Why are we so self-centered? Why can’t we put ourselves in others shoe and try to understand at least once? Why can't we think that they have always obliged us, so what if they have failed once? Do we always do what others like? The answer is No! Very conveniently we blurt out that I can’t do it.

In the pursuit of expecting things to be the way we want, we build an ego and are at the risk of losing a precious relationship. One needs to be content at some point. We should not keep craving for things all the time. A tree nurtures a fruit or a flower without any expectations. Our parents have raised us by giving all the possible things we deserved without even making us feel obliged.

Let's pledge to ourselves to own the mantra of “BE CONTENT”. It will help us in all aspects, all relations, because no one is perfect.

PRACTICAL LESSON

Let us today take one simple resolution “BE CONTENT” and see how does it change our relations.

For eg: My closed ones are my mom, daughter, and husband.

One thing which I will not expect from each of them.

1.      Mom: I expect her to call me everyday but from now I will do the needful and make her feel that I  too can do it.

2.       Daughter: It is already mentioned above.

3.       Husband: Will not expect him to come with me for shopping all the time. (although very simple, but can try)

Small positive steps will surely help us in building a strong relationship. Please be patient with your resolution and I am sure the results will be magical.

Please post your views and comments below. Also, share what resolution are you going to take for your loved ones and how did it help.

Failure is not falling down but refusing to get up.

As usual, Monday mornings are tiresome.Perhaps have to mentally as well as physically pick up ourselves from the bed and get back to work. We had dinner at a friends house previous night.

It was a private party with only the near and dear ones.  It was a seven-course meal spread, with a taste of “ghar ka khaana” not the catering one and a large house with an excellent décor. All the possible things you could think of were served by neatly dressed uniformed waiters. I am a type of a person who prefers house party and was curious to know how my friend arranged all this and wanted to definitely take down reference which would help me in future. 

My curiosity increased when I saw an old lady inside the kitchen area managing all these activities. She was pretty old, with a sparkle in her eyes, white crown with hardly any black strands left, a saree which she carried gracefully, and wore a beautiful smile on her face.

I was a bit furious about my friend thinking that how she can she hire someone who is so old to do household chores. Couldn’t control my inquisitiveness and just went to her and abruptly asked her “Can you give me the reference of this catering” She replied “Of course! Give me a moment!” hurried with her work. To this, I again interrupted her, this time fiercely “Who is this old lady?” She replied, “Well she is the one you are looking for.” Me: “What do you mean?” She said “Catering lady, sweetheart”. I was in a state of shock, that how an old lady could handle such mouth-watering cuisine. None of the dishes were Indian, the meal had Italian and Chinese dishes. For another half an hour I couldn’t interact with others.

Looking at me my friend understood what was troubling me. She took me inside in another room, where she narrated the whole story to me. That old lady was the wife of her driver who passed away 6 months back. His son refused to take her responsibilities. My friend decided to keep her at her house and give food and shelter since her husband had served their family for ages with complete loyalty and honesty. But this dignified lady didn’t want to get anything as a favor so she requested to let her take care of the cooking chores since cooking was her forte. Living in this modern age very soon she realized that just Indian food was not what we were looking up to, and with her full enthusiasm she started learning Italian and Chinese dishes.

It was so motivating to see a lady who is not so educated but still have that fire of self-respect and being independent and start something new at the age of 65. I realized that most of the times we underestimate ourselves. There is something unique in each one of us. We just need to know ourselves rather than understanding the whole world. Why be dependent, when you have the opportunity to be independent. Independence does not bring attitude it makes a person grounded. So before we give up on something, try at least twice not to give up. Take your work as a challenge. There is no value to success without failure. So Keep trying!! Don't Stop!!

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