Being a Mom and a full-time homemaker a lot of activities during the day comprise of pick up and drop from school, grocery, etc. On a Wednesday afternoon, since my daughter had direct coaching after school hours had to carry snacks for her and drop her. I was feeling a bit lethargic that day so thought of picking up something to eat from out.
Perhaps headed towards her favorite French fries shop and ordered the stuff. It was jam-packed, so had no choice than to queue up. But I was having a great time waiting for my turn. The joint was filled extensively with young boys and girls from the nearby institute. I guess they were celebrating something, this is what I presumed after scrutinizing them. All overwhelmed young boys and girls wearing red color clothes having red, yellow roses in their hands.
They all were having a great time and it reminded me of my college days!! I said to myself “Kya din the yaar”. Indeed it made me feel a little older. All were standing in small groups and laughing and giggling and having the best time of their life. In a corner, I noticed that there were at least 15 to 20 students who had surrounded one chic. They all didn’t look fine, something was wrong. That chic in the center crying, actually howling and all others consoling her.
I really wanted to know what went wrong and if I could help her. I overheard the conversation that the boy ditched this girl and that’s why she was so upset that she didn’t want to live. She wanted to end her life. My legs trembled with fear. END LIFE???
How can one think to end life? Especially a teenager!!
It is difficult to handle rejections. Rejections and acceptance are part of life. But this is being faced by all age groups and gender. Not only college students, I have seen so many husbands and wives having a virtue that their spouse doesn't love him or her anymore. So they don’t want to be in a relation. People working in corporates also face it. School going kids come home and complain my friends are not allowing me to be a part of the team. Not selected in Cricket Team!! Should it affect us so much?
My question is why do we live for people’s acceptance?? Why can’t we be patient and actually evaluate the whole thing and then jump to a conclusion? Why can’t we be practical enough to understand that we aren’t designed to fit in that space or try understanding others perception? We have to prepare our mind to be a little tough from the beginning that “what is meant for us will be with us”, let it be a friend, relative or a life partner, etc.
The only two possibilities of any outcomes are Positive and Negative. We are optimistic people, we don't want to even get surrounded with any kind of negativity. So let us hook up to the positive side.
REJECTION IS an OPPORTUNITY
Rejection hits our self-esteem, but if we take it as a healthy criticism and figure out what are your weaknesses and start working on it then it would be a blessing in disguise. Take it as a challenge not for anyone but for your own self, to be a better human being.
Do you really think this is the end or are you trying to just terrorize yourself for the rest of your life with the rejection tag? If yes then how long? Do you want to lead a distressed life forever? For just a silly thing.
The answer is NO!!! Life is beautiful. Live with utmost happiness and in a way that people envy you. Set an example for others. Be focus. Who does not struggle in life? It is a step forward for Success. Do not ruin your life for someone who is not deserving.
DON’T FORGET NOTHING IN LIFE IS PERMANENT!!!
Few Tips to overcome rejection:
1. Accept the rejection.
2. Don’t take it too personally.
3. Express your grievances to someone trustworthy.
4. Do not stretch it too much, get back to work, move on.
5. Use it as an opportunity to overcome your weaknesses.
6. Don’t seek sympathy, be strong and practical.
7. Proving them wrong and making them regret should be your new challenge without being further revengeful
Practical: The moment you feel dejected write down on a piece of paper your 5 strengths and any one achievement.(It can be the smallest one and don’t be disheartened if there is none.)
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