This is not a lady’s cup of tea!!

Before I start “Wishing all the beautiful and gorgeous ladies - Happy Women’s Day!!”

Also, would admit something - 

Like without a villain there is no existence of a hero and vice-versa  same way without  women there is no existence of men and again VICEVERSA

We have been talking a lot about Gender Equality, especially on social media perhaps on all social platforms. Have seen many celebrities too supporting this cause. And above all women empowerment is also considered as a human right issue. Women are not given rights to education, freedom, etc. We have discussed it enough globally. But not on these lines today!

I would like to narrate a small story to prove my point. We had an invite from my husband’s colleague who is a renowned, highly qualified and an established lawyer.  We have been associated with him professionally for over 2 decades and decided to move a step ahead with our association and hence accepted the invitation. 

We reached there at sharp 7.30pm. It was a big joint family and indeed a warm welcome. We were seated in the drawing room with other family members.  We were meeting the family for the first time. Mr. lawyer told his wife to take me inside, but I insisted her sitting with us, but to this Mr. lawyer retorted “She is not interested in business, pretty occupied in her kitchen.” My eyes caught Mrs lawyer’s expression full of discomfort. 

Later we headed towards the dinner table, where I was expecting all of us to have dinner together. Mr. Lawyer instructed his better half to take me inside as the men will eat first and then the ladies. I didn’t have a choice. So I sat in other room with all ladies, felt like a major gender discrimination happening there. Did not get much chance to communicate with Mrs lawyer because she was occupied in the kitchen chores.

I was zapped when I heard her educational qualification. Master of Arts!!. Although she looked pretty happy not those “ablaa naari” types and also no regret types. Then was the turn for all the women to have dinner and that’s the time we chatted a lot.

I really enjoyed chatting with Mrs lawyer. She seemed to be a very enthusiastic lady, kind and grounded. At the same time, I found her extremely efficient in her work. She had a lot of potential apart from the work she was persuading. Here I don’t mean that doing kitchen work is something below dignity, on the contrary, I strongly give credence to homemakers who are doing a thankless job in spite of having an ability to do much more than that.

I understand that we grow up in a certain environment and unknowingly tend to follow the same footsteps of our parents or rather grandparents. Mr. Lawyer didn’t do any injustice to Mrs lawyer, they were happily married. But basic equality factor was missing and that’s something which made me cheerless. Nevertheless, don't want to talk about the major injustice done to women or women rights. But here a realization comes, that to understand gender inequality we need to be educated.  I know educated people will not abuse his women, but here the agenda is not of that level.  And in spite of being educated, if we don’t accept modernization, I guess there is no value to the so called education. Gender Equality is a social issue which should come as a revolution and the revolution will occur only if we are educated. I have seen so many families where husbands share equal responsibilities of home and kids, which gives each and every member of the family a feeling of togetherness.

I have seen so many working women manage their home and kids alone, I sincerely salute them. Ask yourself how many times you have said to her “Please stay out of it, it is not your cup of tea” and same goes to wives also whose husbands have tried to help them.

There should be an equal privilege for both genders. This will definitely set an example for our kids i.e. coming generation which will make a better society and a better nation as a whole.

Practical

Small things men can do

Involve your wife in your business.

Discuss major issues with her.

Ask her opinion where major decisions are taken.

Share responsibilities of kids.

Respect

Few things women can do

Help your husband in managing his day.

Research and give him different plans for savings.

Plan a holiday at a lower cost than he has.

Understand when your husband comes late from office and try to share his load.

Try to be independent.

Respect

These are few things which we all can do to take a step ahead.

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